Nazish Rahman's Blog

A forwarded mail i received and thought to share with you all. After reading this...the way i now look at life has really changed. Hope it changes your too :)!!




Speech by Chetan Bhagat in Symbiosis Institute of Management:

Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.
One thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up?
It's ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, take leave from work, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices. :)
"Don't be serious, be sincere.”!!!


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I received Kreative Blogger Award from Manju Thank you m really honored :)!!
I will take the tag soon...:)!!



I would like to pass on the award to

Neha
Karen
Titaxy
Usha
Ekta Khetan
Kavi

How much do we feel in control of the events that takes place in our life? Some believe that its them who are responsible for whatever happens in our lives while there are some who believe that its not them but destiny.

Those who think that whatever happens to them is all because of fate.. in a way try to not face the fact that its them who is responsible. They dont want to be realistic.On the other hand those who think that their success or failure depends solely on the efforts and not on luck are generally people who have confidence on their abilities. They are not shy from taking responsibility. Those who fall under this category are hardworking and are always open to take help so as to improve.

Those who believe as whatever happens its all because of luck...will never work hard. On the other hand those who believe in their abilities and take the responsibilities will always work hard. They will never complain. These kind of people are more open to new ideas and always eager to learn. On the contrary those who rely on fate are reluctant to seek help for problems as they think they anyways have no control over them. This can lead to more problems for them.


Belief in yourself is the most important thing in life as this is what gives one the power to fight against odds. Its also an important part a person character. One has to be realistic too as that luck does play a role but to some extent. There are somethings in life that is beyond are control but to succumb under those situations is sign of weakness. One should try what he or she can do best. If one tends to think that his efforts will only get him where he wants to, then you tend to become neurotic.

God also helps those who help themselves and not those who simply rely on him.

Respect is something which we all want. There are some who demand respect and some earn! There are some members in family that one respects but if one is given a choice....one would think twice. Same can also be said in the social circle we live in.

There are some people who demand respect. Shouldn't respect be earned? Whats the use of fake respect if that person does not respect you from his heart. Elders sometimes think that respect is something which they deserve, and no need to earn it. One should do an analyse as what has one done to earn this. Respect should also be given to juniors as well because then only one can expect love and genuine respect from them. Genuine respect is something that is felt from inside and it has nothing to do with age or seniority. It is possible that we respect people who are lesser than our age or experience. Genuine respect is something which is unbiased according to me as it comes straight from your heart.

A person who has self respect can only have genuine respect for others and not fake. One cant expect others to respect if one we cant respect ourselves. The way one behaves and his actions are what helps him or her to earn respect. Respect according to me is something that expects something in return too...and that is respect, but not fake!! One should earn respect and not command as it will be fake!!

Most of us have this belief that we are a good responsible human being. Are we? What are the criteria that qualifies us to be in the good human club. Is it that one who has never harmed anyone and is always ready to help.

For some this may be and for many it may not qualify as being the criteria. For some it may be listening to the inner voice and following it as what is right or wrong. Now what is right or wrong depends what according to that individual is right and wrong. For some right or wrong changes depending on the circumstances. Many believe that they not a good human being and always want to be in that state of mind. The reason can be that when they compare their actions to that of others..they find other people's action more humane. At the same time there are many who consider themselves to be the a good human being because they are better than those people whose actions are worse then theirs.

There is no one who is perfect in this world. We all have these qualities ,this is what I think. The only thing that may be differs us from each other as far as our nature is concerned is the extent of availability of all those points mentioned above.
Those who try to be good are the ones who come closer to being a good human. The important word here is "try". Results are not that important rather intentions are. I was once told by my professor " The most important thing in life is to be a good human. If you are able to achieve this then you have actually been successful in life".

Without darkness one would not know the value of light, in the same way without the presence of evil one would not value what is good. We all have some good qualities as well as bad.

Here comes two awards and a tag...I was awarded and tagged by Neha...thanks Neha...

here are my answers:

1.What is your current obsession ?
cricket.

2. What are you wearing today?
White shirt and black tracks

3. What’s for dinner?
No idea :)


4. What’s the last thing you bought?
Shaving Gel.

5. What are you listening to right now?
Forever And For Always by Shania Twain!!

6. What do you think about the person who tagged you?
Lolz..."person" sure!! Jokes apart the most honest and down to earth person. If i was to give honesty a shape then it had to b this "person" :)

7. If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished anywhere in the world, where would you like it to be?
India...the best place in the world..


8. What are your must-have pieces for summer?
T-shirts

9. If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go?
where i would get peace

10. Which language do you want to learn?
French

11. What’s your favourite quote?
"Bad habits are like soft bed...easy to get in difficult to get out "


12. Who do you want to meet right now?
No one...m better alone right now!!


13. What is your favourite colour?
Blue

14. What is your favourite piece of clothing in your own closet?
All are favorite thats why they r thr!!

15. What is your dream job?
President of BCCI

16. What’s your favourite magazine?
None

17. If you had $100 now, what would you spend it on?
definitely would buy curved chain bracelet

18. What do you consider a fashion faux pas?
Nothing

19. Who according to you is the most over-rated style icon?
Who is not...??

20. What kind of haircut do you prefer?
Short hair

21. What are you going to do after this?
check my FB acc!!

22. What are your favourite movies?
many...its a long list!!

23. What are three cosmetic/makeup/perfume products that you can't live without?
Deo & Perfumes

24. What inspires you ?
smile :)

25. Give us three styling tips that always work for you:
Wear what u r comfortable with....whats on your mind is always on your body so chill!!


26. What do you do when you “have nothing to wear” (even though your closet’s packed)?
will go for shopping

27. Coffee or tea?
tea

28. What do you do when you are feeling low or terribly depressed?
I read or listen music

29. What is the meaning of your name?
A person with high self esteem....

30. Which other blogs do you love visiting?
there are many!!

31. Favorite Dessert/Sweet?
Gajar ka halwa

32. Favorite Season ?
Winter...always beautiful

33. If I come to your house now, what would u cook for me?
Paw Bhajji..


34. What is the right way to avoid people who purposefully hurt you?
Simply avoid them....n if its online then as some one says..."BLOCK" !!! :)

35. My question: Are u hungry?
Oh very much!!



Rules for those who are tagged:Respond and rework – answer these questions on your blog, replace one question that you dislike with a question of your own, and add one more question to the list. Then tag eight or ten other new set of people.

I tag

Swatantra
Zeba
SG
Usha
Sujata
Kavita
Kavi
Babli
Varsha Shorte
Easha



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I would like to convey my bouquet of thanks to Babli for passing me this beautiful award. I am extremely happy to get the award from you my dear friend.

I would like to share this award with my following blogger friends -

Neha
Swatantra
Zeba
SG
Usha
Sujata
Kavita
Kavi
Varsha Shorte
Easha

We all have a permanent guest who stays within us. Its our ego that has occupied this space and comes into action whenever it feels it should. In some cases it sleeps all the time and is awake when it thinks is necessary. Ego is so big that it cannot fit anywhere but only in its inflated shadow or area. It exists in our unconscious and conscious mind and controls it.

Its presence makes it more difficult to accept the reality and ultimately results in actions that may not be correct but is convenient to us. In an attempt to not prove yourself wrong you go on with the decision that your unconscious mind has taken which is fully controlled by your ego thinking that its your conscious mind which has taken it. One may even realize their mistake but never confront with it. This is the phase where the ego in you is in absolute control. It never wins you friends nor your able to get peace when it has taken full control over you.

Human beings are bound to make mistakes, but to accept it is a big thing. Very few do. What really stops them for accepting it? Its fear of being proven wrong and having conditioned your mind that its an insult. Fear and Insult are the most powerful weapon of ego that makes us weak.

Presence of ego is not bad but its degree of presence and control on us it what makes its existence advantageous or disadvantageous for us. It is important to have self esteem, as a person without it misses the zing to succeed. Its a drive which is very powerful and helps the individual to be focussed on his goals. To achieve anything in life one has to be steadfast with their goal in life. Hurdles will come and does try to distract and destroy you but a person who uses this to his own advantage and in a positive way ultimately achieves success without damaging your conscience.

Lets try and take control of ourselves rather than being controlled. Learn to recognize the ego!

We all are born in relationship and its with us from the time of our birth till the time we die. Relationships should survive the problems that we face in the day to day lives. Sometimes its better to keep a distance in order to keep the relationship. There can be times when one has to break a relationship when it becomes unbearable share the space with the person. Relationships main success mantra according to me is trust. I may be wrong but thats what i feel. If one does not have trust in a relationship, then problems are bound to happen and we decide break away from it when its not possible to carry on further with it as one starts to realize it as a burden.

Trust,love, space, mutual respect are important features in a relationship. Some how we tend to take it for granted and when a relation fails in any one of the category, the crack develops. Its very difficult to cover the cracks as once developed...always leaves a mark. When mistrust and insecurity makes their entry at the initial stages we tend to ignore them when they are small, and when it develops big enough to disturb us we are left with just one option...end it.

I have always felt that its conversations are the most important way of building a relationship. One needs to talk when he/she is supposed to. Keeping issues under the pillow will never solve your problem. One has face them. Someone said to me dont be honest when speaking the truth as it may hurt someone. Is it?? I doubt...these people according to me dont want to see the reality and want to live in a world that does not even exist. One rather try to not damage the relation more but by not replying to the questions that have come up and simply closing your eyes or putting blinkers wont solve your problem. One has to understand that you not being reactive to the situation is in a way creating more problems for the other person. In a relationship one is not alone...there are others also involved.

Relationship is something that cannot be forced, an depends on mutual respect. One should learn the fundamentals of the game, band aid remedies never last. Learn and know what is required to make your relationship healthy. Experience teaches you all but sometimes you can be too late to react. So its better to be proactive than reactive most of the times as far as relationships are concerned.

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