Saturday, September 19, 2009
Handle Your Relationships
We all are born in relationship and its with us from the time of our birth till the time we die. Relationships should survive the problems that we face in the day to day lives. Sometimes its better to keep a distance in order to keep the relationship. There can be times when one has to break a relationship when it becomes unbearable share the space with the person. Relationships main success mantra according to me is trust. I may be wrong but thats what i feel. If one does not have trust in a relationship, then problems are bound to happen and we decide break away from it when its not possible to carry on further with it as one starts to realize it as a burden.
Trust,love, space, mutual respect are important features in a relationship. Some how we tend to take it for granted and when a relation fails in any one of the category, the crack develops. Its very difficult to cover the cracks as once developed...always leaves a mark. When mistrust and insecurity makes their entry at the initial stages we tend to ignore them when they are small, and when it develops big enough to disturb us we are left with just one option...end it.
I have always felt that its conversations are the most important way of building a relationship. One needs to talk when he/she is supposed to. Keeping issues under the pillow will never solve your problem. One has face them. Someone said to me dont be honest when speaking the truth as it may hurt someone. Is it?? I doubt...these people according to me dont want to see the reality and want to live in a world that does not even exist. One rather try to not damage the relation more but by not replying to the questions that have come up and simply closing your eyes or putting blinkers wont solve your problem. One has to understand that you not being reactive to the situation is in a way creating more problems for the other person. In a relationship one is not alone...there are others also involved.
Relationship is something that cannot be forced, an depends on mutual respect. One should learn the fundamentals of the game, band aid remedies never last. Learn and know what is required to make your relationship healthy. Experience teaches you all but sometimes you can be too late to react. So its better to be proactive than reactive most of the times as far as relationships are concerned.
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